I’ve told the story on this blog about “My journey of love,” which relates to the songs on the pages here that depict this journey, and the whole range of emotions which one feels at the beginning of a great romance and at the end, if unfortunately it has to come to an end.
Was the pursuit worth it? The saying “Tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all,” sums it up for me. I’ve begun to wonder, however, if love and romance can exist or last, in today’s world in which we live our lives through the internet. Here we can find everything with a click, including potential soul-mates.
Several of my friends have tried the dating sites, and a couple of them did end up getting married. Most, however, go on endless dates and never hear back from the men who they think “have potential.” And when they do go on more than one date, sex is expected right away and if they “give in,” the guy says, “I’ll call you” and never does. He’s not that in to you, as they say.
I watched a movie on TV last night, called “The Mother.” A woman’s husband dies after many years of marriage. She goes to visit her daughter and ends up having sex with the daughter’s married boyfriend, who is much younger than she is. She enjoys the sex, but knows that this will not lead to a long term relationship.
Then at the coaxing of her friends, she goes out with a man her own age, and they end up in bed that very night. The scene is enough to cure anyone of the desire to have “instant gratification sex.” It is a completely repulsive scene in which the only satisfied person is the man.
I believe that whether you are young, middle aged or old, everyone wants to find love. In today’s society, love and sex seem to be considered synonymous. It is my belief that they are not. In order to have great sex, you must first fall in love through a romance, in which you get to know each other’s dreams, desires, goals, likes, dislikes and when you have fallen in love, sex can be wonderful because you love the person’s soul, not only their body.